Funny, isn’t it?
I mean, I would have found it a wee bit funny if it was printed as a headline in a newspaper or a magazine.
But it wasn’t. And its funny in the least.
My aunt, a qualified , practising doctor, died of Toxic Epidermal Necrolysis (TENS) ,also called as a severe form of Stevens Johnson Syndrome.
I’ve provided a link which does not have any images with it. Because they are too gory to watch. And it doesn’t help for me to recollect that my aunt looked far worse than what these images show.
The magnitude of her suffering, till the end was too painful to even express. And it’s heart-wrenching to realize the amount of pain she must have borne. She, being a tough woman herself, gave a good fight. And there were sparks of her getting well, like the day before her death, she was coherent, craving for some coffee and juice. Her agony was multiplied fourfold because she couldn’t believe that she,a doctor, could cause herself such misery. Till the time she could speak, she kept complaining that she must have lost her doctor’s touch if she could cause such damage to herself.
For the record, my aunt was suffering from malaria. She was undergoing treatment from her family doctor, a certain Dr.G. Now, we have a very adverse opinion of Dr.G ,because till date, all the patients in my family who’ve been treated under him, have suffered. But the aunt looked up to him a lot. He was her mentor and guide. So when he suggested that she take Tamilfu pills in addition to her malaria pills for “added protection”, my aunt didn’t think twice. My cousins procured the pills for her and the rest, as they say, is history.
The doctor is currently absconding. No one knows where he is. I’m sure he’s hiding behind a rock somewhere, certain that we’ll be slapping him with a lawsuit, which he deserves. But my uncle is not bothered. He says no amount of lawsuit will bring back his wife . It was their fate and they’ll have to bear the consequences of their wrong judgement. After all, my aunt herself took the medication. Being a doctor, she should have realized that mixing strong doses of different medications is not good for the body. Alas, there are too many “what ifs..” going about, but none of them is of any use now. What is done is done.
The weekend was traumatic. We’ve been through a bad loss. My uncle’s still in denial mode, not venting his grief, but rather laughing and joking loudly, his voice boisterous as though nothing has happened. As if he’s still thinking that its a big joke and my aunt would one day magically come back
. We can only look at him and mourn . There is nothing we can do here, other than wait for time to do its healing act.
My cousins are faring much better. The elder one has taken up the reins of the family . He made sure things moved smoothly, from handling the hospital formalities to arranging the funeral to the post-funeral rituals. He’s standing strong and its a relief to see that his father and younger brother derive strength from him. I’m sure his mom would have been so proud of him.
I’d like to thank you all sincerely for your prayers and wishes. Though it may not bring back my aunt, it will at least put her soul at rest.









Oh I hv no words N. Loads of hugs to all of u and u will all be in my prayers!
Thanks for the prayers, S
I hope your mama accepts and comes to terms with the loss soon. Denial isn’t good in the long term! I hope his family can help him mourn, move on, and find peace gradually.
My uncle’s in denial. I guess it stems from the fact that he had a love marriage.
Me and the BF were trying to understand how difficult it must be to lose someone you had fallen in love with. All those memories must be so over whelming now
Anyhow, mom’s here….and she’s good with the healing act. My uncle’s in safe hands
That said, what an awful way to die! I hope you get to sue the ass off that Dr.G.
We’d hoped to. But the uncle refuses. And we don’t want to go against his wishes. At least now.
The best that can be done is to give that doc a wide berth and stop taking any medication prescribed by him!!
so sorry abt your aunt. May god rest her soul in peace and may ur uncle heal soon too and come to terms. n that doc deserves punishment. he did this to a doctor, imagine what his other patients would be suffering. maybe bring him out in the press/media. i know it will not bring ur aunt back, but some more lives might be saved.
What happened with my aunt was really sad. But since neither my uncle nor my cousins want to initiate any action on that front, we are helpless. Uncle has said that he doesn’t want to express any opinion on that doctor. He is , at best, forgotten
My condolences. May her soul rest in peace… May the family find strength in their hours of grief. (hugs)
Thanks for the wishes MS