Archive for May, 2012

I finally bought the twins their first pair of roller skates.

Red wheels for Shobby and Hot-pink for Lui.

Since the time, their cousin, AB (sister-in-law’s son) rolled around our house on his ‘wheels’, the twins have been pestering me to get them those ‘shoes with tyres’ ( 🙄 ) . It didn’t seem like a bad idea. The twins are already over 3 years and old enough to start cycling. The only problem is that we do not have a favorable vicinity for them to cycle in, what with our building being located bang on the road! Also, the twins are too small to be left out in the lanes behind our house!

So skates be it. It helps that our house has ample space for them to practice in. As soon as I pulled them out, the twins yelled with delight, ran to wear their shoes (as instructed by me) and pestered us to lace up the rollers to their feet. Well, the part till the lacing up went just fine. What didn’t go all that fine was happened next.

Lui got up.

And she came down even before I realized that she had got up 😐

Luckily, she landed on her ample rump and was saved from any injury, other than the small matter of her pride being hurt! But shortly, with some basic instructions and loads of help, she was able to hold on to the bunk-bed’s support bar and slowly roll to and fro. I think for a first timer, she showed immense balance.

Shobby, unfortunately, wasn’t as lucky. I had to yell at him to STAY STILL FOR A MINUTE!! Alas, he was so worked up that he kept pumping his legs and the wheels just rolled harder and it was so difficult to hold him upright till he could at least stand. Though he didn’t fall as such, two minutes on the skates were enough for him.

“Abhi bas”, he concluded and ordered me to get rid of the skates.

Aah…well 😐

At least Lui did some justice to the price I payed for them skates. Actually, I bought the them from two different stores, right opposite to each other. The skates were of the same brand. At one store, I got it for 560/- (couldn’t buy two because I didn’t have more cash and the lady insisted that she didn’t take cards).

The second pair was bought the next day at the other sports shop, where I got it for 490/- along with a bag to store them in 😐 . Could have kicked myself for not withholding my urge to buy the first pair 😦

Anyhow, have also purchased the twin’s first set of swimming costume and trunk. In red. Shobby loved it so much that he wanted to wear it at home. Its been tough trying to explain to him that it has to be worn ONLY inside a pool. Lui loves her red ‘frock’ as she sees her costume. The MIL wondered why I chose such a bright shade of red. Why?? Because it has the longest wavelength in the spectrum of light. So if my kids go anywhere further than needed, it’ll be easier to spot them.

(Yeah, I’m paranoid about losing them).

(Am also paranoid about dressing them in the same shades. Sue me !!)

So this summer, after the kids spent the first two weeks cooped up at home, I have finally planned some action for them. The FIL is keen to take them swimming. And the BF will take over the roller skates. Actually, he’s the one who’s the skating pro. I’ve never attached those wheels to my feet and I doubt I’m keen to start now 😐 .  But he sure knows the tricks and the techniques, so yeah, he’s in charge of this game now 🙂

I don’t see Shobby turning into a sportsperson, really. He’s not too keen on games which require much physical activity, though turning somersaults and hopping between the sofas seems to suit him just fine. Lui shows some serious spark where sports are concerned and we are really hoping she develops this interest further.

All we can do is provide the means, right?

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I really wanted to title this post differently….but then, aware that religious sentiments run high, I thought it would be better to take a safer route 🙂

Actually, I wanted to rave and rant about this observation by Bombay High Court judges P B Majmudar and Anoop Mohta , that “Married women should be like goddess Sita” . This humble ‘observation’ was passed when a woman refused to move to Port Blair with her husband. Obviously, concerns like her having a job of her own or even her apprehensions on moving to a remote place never occurred to the esteemed judges. But yes, how un-Sita like of the woman for refusing to walk mutely behind her husband and follow him like the little proverbial sacrificial lamb!!

Not done I tell you!!

It was rather difficult for me to control the expletive-ridden tirade that came to my mind as soon as I read the article. Mark, I’m not in favor of the woman who agreed to the divorce. Surprisingly it never occurred to the judges that the husband in this picture, sent a divorce notice to his wife because ‘she refused to join him in his new place’. Was her refusal so earth-shattering that the man had no option left, but to deny their child a parent??

Aren’t there men who leave their wives behind, to look after ‘his family’ while they go off to far-flung places? Should such women send an immediate divorce decree to their husbands for leaving them behind?? Aren’t women who demand to stay with their husbands (and not their in-laws) looked down upon?

Needless to say, the man was let off easily, apparently because the judges likened him to Bhagwan Ram (he’s a man, after all, isn’t he?!!)!

The woman is the guilty party here.  The judges shake their collective heads and rue that today’s women are so unlike Sita. Thanks, but no Thanks!

Sita  never got an iota of love and respect for all her sacrifices. I doubt many people (and by that I mean women) hold Sita in very high esteem 😦 . At least, I wish her history had been written differently. I wish it was written in a way that Sita would be a role model for women and not for men alone!! Men would, of course, love to have a wife who always follows their wishes, never argues and stays devoted no matter what scum-of-the-gutter the man is.


Sorry, but no. No woman should strive to be Sita.  If she does, then there should be rules , the primary one being that her partner should have a modicum of virtues as in Ram.

But when such men are rare, who do the women become Sitas for??



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So many little things to share, where do I even begin??
Okay, I’ll start with the woes with my bike.
I own a Scooty Pep+, a sturdy little thing which completed 5 years this Feb.I like the Scooty because it consumes very little parking space, which, in a parking-deprived city like Pune, is a big boon 😐
Though I’ve been regular with the servicing, I have a feeling I’ve been fleeced of the bike’s original parts. So after every servicing, the bike just gets worse, albeit after working fine for a week.
Just a couple of months back, the BIL had got it serviced again. Yet, within a few weeks, the starter wouldn’t work anymore. The battery is so low, that even after a drive of 20kms, the button start doesnt work 😦
I’ve been kicking away for ages, not to mention, fuming away mentally and literally at traffic junctions (where I cant switch off the ignition, because there is no time for me to get down, put the bike on main stand and start kicking away). I’ve been burning more fuel that before and thats giving me some serious heart-burn.
Lately, I was even thinking of getting it exchanged for a new bike.
That is, until last Friday, when my junk of a bike, took me sailing safely to a far-off place, with me, my MIL and two kids in tow!
I didn’t know my bike had it in her. I mean, I’m a heavy-weight. The MIL more so. The twins, together weigh around 28kgs. The total weight on my bike was roughly 180Kgs!!!
And yet, it drove us smoothly over an incline and when we got got from the other side, the wheels gripped hard and the brakes were smooth.
So okay, all I wanted to say here was that my bike’s still got some juice left.
It is still good to go. I’ll postpone the exchanging for another year 😀


The wretched sun is killing my ridge-gourds 😦
If this isn’t reason enough to wail away, I dont know what is!!
After all the love and devotion of watering, manuring, digging and providing supports, the sun comes around and plays spoil sport! Just when the tiny flowers bloomed and the teeny-weeny ridge-gourds took shape, the sun burned them to a cinder!! Around 20-30 of the little fruits have been burned away by now. Though I made sure that the plant was not placed in a very sunny area, the problem is that the hot winds accompanying the heat are just as deadly!!
I think this was a wrong season to plant it anyway.
Surprisingly though, two little fruits are still going strong. They’ve grown bigger than the others and haven’t turned yellow/brown yet, which gives me hope.
Keeping fingers crossed for the first harvest 🙂

I saw a British war drama called Atonement by director Joe Wright.
I think I was never impressed with British movies before, strictly limiting myself to their comedies which surpasses the American’s (AND the Harry Potter series, of course 😀 ).
But this movie was an eye-opener. Starring, Keira Knightly and the beautifully naive James McAvoy, the movie is a heart-breaking narration of love in the times of war, of mistaken identities, fate and penance.
So beautifully is the movie shot that it was easy to ignore the slow pace and cryptic dialogues (which cut like scythes though the narrative). James McAvoy doesn’t need dialgoes. He can be mute and you would still know what he’s thinking. This guy can express volumes just with his eyes!!
The synopsis of the movie will be available on IMDB or Wiki, but I urge you to watch it before going for the synopsis.
The end is truly heart-breaking, but in a way which touches down deeper than normal. You root for the couple to have a happy ending and like the last scene shows, there is a wealth of wisdom in the eyes of the hero as he looks back with world-weary eyes and then steps inside to join his lady love.
For the faint-hearted, let me warn that this movie contains some really gruesome war images, which refuse to leave you long after you’re done watching them. You might feel compelled to press the fast-forward, but believe me, the shots are more aesthetic than gruesome and just add to the richness of the movie (one more indication of the futilities of war and its impact on innocent people).
Do watch it if you get the chance.

Read this review in case you are still not convinced!!

And ohh, how could I forget the background score?!! This is possibly the first time I heard of the typewriter as a musical instrument! Awesome work there!!
On an aside, I’m slowly getting addicted to watching movies on my laptop than watching it on the big-screen or the TV. Though I do like theaters, I feel that sometimes, the decibel levels of the theater go way over the movie’s needs. It is no fun trying to watch a serious drama with your hands clamped over your ears 😦
Television is a taboo, for obvious reasons. Its more about the advertisements than the movie and I’m not too keen on Ads.

Speaking of Ads, I think there is a serious shortage of clever ads that make an impact. All the products use the same ad format. Think Deos and immediately you’ll recollect that ALL brands have women in skimpy clothing simpering/slithering/drooling/hyperventilating over the man who’s just bathed in the product (yup, bathed. Because a spray or two dont work!!)
Think about washing powders and ALL ads have kids sermonising their mothers on the choice of brand. OR, they have husbands who are glad that their wife’s hands are softer than before.
How about showing a guy helping his wife with the washing?! Then his opinion would matter, wouldn’t it??
Then there’s this other ad I saw, of an ailing and emancipated Rajesh Khanna claiming that his fans will never leave him. I wanted to feel good for him, but somehow the sentiment dipped towards pity. Immense pity that a yesteryear’s superstar is content to have his ‘fans’, albeit the mechanical ones. That familiar cock of the head in the end was more pathetic than endearing 😦
And I really MUST do a post on unFAIR means of playing with the female psyche. These guys crossed the laxman Rekha with this ad!!

Have bought a pair of roller-skates for the twins.Unfortunately, it was the only pair available in that size. Haven’t shown it to the twins yet. The BF has asked me to buy another pair before I let the twins set their eyes on this one. Else, we’ll have to prepare for the Battle-Of-NeverEnding-Proportions (with Lui winning, of course 😀 )

I’ve been sleeping loads.
All thanks to the MIL who’s now enjoying her school’s summer vacations. She has taken over the morning’s kitchen duties from yours truly
So instead of setting an alarm for 5:30 or 6AM, I get up at *hold your breath* 8 AM!!!
Thats like practically mid-day 😀
So yeah, am less grumpier and more chirpier these days 😀
That is, till I saw “Housefull2” day before yesterday.
Been in mourning since then 😦

Thats all for now.
Much more randomness coming in future posts!!
Stay tuned 🙂

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After a long time, very long actually, I got to spend some quality time with friends, old and new.
“Friendship” seems to be the flavour of the season and I’m drinking it up as much as possible 🙂
So wrapped up was I in work and at home that I’ve been guilty of giving the cold-shoulder to people who are equally important to me. People who I’ve shared my secrets with and who have shared theirs. People I’ve laughed with, cried with. People who care about me and I about them. So after a very long, I spent a few days where my friends were the focus of my day 🙂

The first one on the list is Mini.
Last week, Mini was in town. She was on her way to Mumbai with her hubby and the little Artimator.We had planned to meet up weeks ago. Unfortunately, on that particular day, last Thursday, I got caught up at work. It didn’t help that she was staying put at the air-force base which is a good 25-30 km from my office 😦 . I called her up to apologize for not making it. She replied that she’ll be here the next day too and it would be great if I could make it.
The daft me forgot my cell at home that day 😦
The in-laws were out for a wedding and had taken the twins along. I couldnt even ask them to check my phone for the redial list (of course I didn’t remember her number!!)
I twiddled my thumbs and fretted over how to reach her. No luck 😦
Short of driving to the air-force base and yelling Mini, Miiiiniiii, I was left with no option, but to wrap up work and go home. And oh, it was a Friday, right?! So yeah, I could finally leave office by 8 pm 😦
Anyway, crux of the matter is that I didnt get to meet darling Artim or the fabulous Mini 😦
But it helps to think that blogging has brought me new friends who look forward to meeting me ….and think of me when in town.
*Sigh* Its good to feel thought about 🙂

So Mini, if you are reading this, then please accept my sincere apology. I didn’t mean to dump you like that. It looks like fate has reserved our meeting for a better time!!
Second on the list would be good friend VSG from the clients place I used to work at earlier. She had delivered a baby girl a couple of months back and was in town. I’d been planning to visit her for ages, but the plan never got executed. Last Saturday, I decided that come hell or high water, I’m gonna meet her!! So I cooked the meals for people at home, bathed the twins and handed them over to the nanny and the BF, packed my purse and sped away. Since I’m really stupid with gifts, I bought some rattles for the baby and a memory game for the elder kid (which, after opening the box turned out to be rather unfitting of the snazzy pics on the box-cover. In other words, the memory cards sucked big time. They were nothing better than 2-inch cardboard pieces with a printed image on one side. Even the regular playing cards look better than the ones I bought 😦 )
It was good to see VSG. She was positively glowing, a look achieved only after one has babies. No amount of make-up can ever, ever replicate this look 🙂 . Anyhow, so me and VSG chatted for ages, had some awesome lunch and then she handed me some things she had bought for me :-
1) A beautiful frock for Lui. Which Lui wore for the wedding on Sunday.
2) The most awesome hyderabadi stone-work bangles set for me. When she opened the box, I just sucked in my breath and forgot to breathe for like ages!! They were that beautiful!! I was literally speechless and she was pleased that I liked it. Liked it?? I would have killed for it 😐 !!
3) The most kick-ass Andhra mango pickle!! This is a gloriously spicy concoction of fresh, unripe mangoes, Andhra spices/chillies and humongous quantities of oil.Oh dear Lord!! What bounty!!

Okay, so I felt cheap 😦
I hadn’t got her anything and here she was, showering me with so many things!! Reminder to self : Next time I meet her, MUST give her something for herself and not just the kids!

Sunday was a busy day, mostly spent in attending a wedding, visiting relatives (the GMIL’s sister who is in much the same condition as GMIL was a few months back 😦 ) and hunting for lost children.
Monday was a terribly busy day at work, with a call in the evening which stretched on till 7:30pm. After that I stayed back to read/drop a few mails, an activity I never get to do at home. Reached home by 9pm.

Tuesday was another one of those days that are so satisfying that they bring back a smile every time you recollect it 🙂 .
I met Prabha Tai. Or in other words, one of my seniors at work and an unofficial mentor. She was the one who made life bearable when I thought I couldnt work anymore. She boosted my confidence in my abilities when there were others denouncing it every minute!! In other words, she’s a genuinely good friend and mentor. I look up to her (literally and figuratively. She’s around 5’8″-5’9″ in height 😀 ).
Tai currently works in the US and was down in Pune for a visit her parents and son ( CI’s a ridiculously tall guy!! I mean, when I last him, he was in standard 8th and stood around 5’8″ tall 😐 . I remember Tai ranting that she couldn’t find him jeans with his length and waist size ! ). Right now, he’s MUCH taller and bigger 🙂 . I’m sure Tai buys his clothes from abroad 😀
Anyway, we were supposed to meet on Sunday, but the delays in visiting relatives made certain that I couldn’t make it back in time to meet her. So we had rescheduled it for Tuesday. And what a day it was!!
The minute her door was opened, we ran to hug each other and clung on for ages!!!
Lui, who had accompanied me, gaped at us, probably wondering why her mother was acting like a baby leech.
But seriously, I love this woman 🙂 . Just being in her company is awesomeness itself 🙂
We chatted for a while and then she tells me that she has invited another friend over. A certain Mr.AMR who is a dear friend from a long time back!! I squeeled in delight, because I hadn’t seen him in ages! There was a time, some 8 years back, when we had an iftaar group at work. We were the ones who used to fast during Ramzan and get- together for iftar in the evening. It was a great gang. AMR was the youngest of the group and we used to have a fun time ribbing him 😀
Anyhow, he turned up shortly with his very beautiful wife. And then we had a wonderful time reminiscing about the old time….of the work, the people, the highs and the lows. We chatted for ages, over samosas and pizzas, rasgullas and dhoklas and Coke, of course. Lui, though a little perturbed at being the only kid around was reasonably well behaved, by which I obviously mean that no crockery was broken or windows shattered. No walls were scrawled upon, though I did see her eye twitching when she spotted the sparkling, clean walls 😐 . Thankfully, Tai gifted her with a set of washable-ink sketch pens which Lui now treasures more than her ragged-y doll. The sketch pens kept her busy for the rest of the afternoon 🙂 .
It was with a heavy heart that I parted from there. I met Tai after 8 long years! This weekend, she’ll be gone again. I have no idea when I’ll get to meet her again 😦 .

That evening, I met another dear friend, at a traffic signal, no less, who shared the news that she was on the family way! I would have leapt up right there and given her a hug! But prior experience with miscarriages and the fact that I was tied up with the twins on my bike, made it difficult for me to perform that action. Though I was jumping with joy inside, I kept a calm face and congratulated her. It was tough, being neutral like that 😦

But seriously! My friend circle rocks as of now 🙂
Three of my BEST friends are expecting, one for the second time 🙂 . I can barely wait for them babies to pop-out 😀

I met some great friends over a period of few days and I’m now in better touch with them than through FB!

Basically, I’m on a high right now.

So if you have great friends around, raise your cup and and say a loud “Cheers” for friendship.

Its the greatest gift ever 🙂

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