I started writing this post yesterday. Instead of Wordless Wednesday, I wanted to write about “W”s of the other kind (seeing that I’m flooded with them this season 😦 ) . There’s so much happening around me and so much that I’m into right now, that I’m losing track of everything miserably (total failure there !)
Anyhow, let’s have a look at a few of them :-
I] Work
I like my work. Which doesn’t really translate into me liking my job. The work is related to the domain, there is knowledge involved, a lot of learning and sometimes, even a little bit of un-learning. The job is related to where I work, whom I work for.
The last few days have been hectic. I’ve ranted about it enough. There is a lot of unplanned activity taking place (along with the planned one) and there are bound to be goof-ups. I made one such goof-up. And was strong enough to admit it. But what irked me to no end was that the other people involved (read, the seniors) backed out totally. They were happy that I was taking the blame and simply distanced themselves from the issue. SO NOT DONE!!!
I can rave and rant about how the clients treated me like a puppet and swung me from one field of action to another to such an extent that at one point of time, I had no idea what I was doing! But its of no use now. The damage is done. I’m guilty, and ready to take the flak for my mistakes. But, I refuse to take the blame for everyone!! Specially, when the fault left their hands and came to mine. I wasn’t the ONLY one involved, for God’s sake!!
Anyhow, along with this issue, there is another small one of working at a client side. I’ve made some really good friends and if there will be any regret on leaving this place, it would be that I wouldn’t be able to spend time with my friends here. But the larger issue is that my case is one of dhobi ka kutta. The one that belongs neither to the ghar nor the ghat 😦 . I cannot take part in any activities related to my company and I’m a forever outsider at the client side.
Take a small instance. The last quarter was profitable for the department. All employees were gifted with gift cheques for their efforts. Except us contract employees. It did make me rue the fact that I had put in as much effort and time as the rest, but I’m not eligible for the recognition or remuneration. My company would at most get a feedback mail and it may/may not affect the appraisals. Thats it.
The indignity of it all makes me want to quit real bad and get back to someplace where I’m not treated like a second-class citizen!! And to clear the record, it is NOT about the gift. It is about being accepted as a member of the team who contributed as much as the others, if not more. To be left out blatantly like this hurts bad 😦
I guess I really MUST focus on a job change soon. If only, to retain my sanity and keep my fury in check!
II] Worries
The twins are 2-years-plus. We’ve started hunting for schools/play-groups around the house, but haven’t found one to our liking. The hunt is still on. At times, I’m not very sure I’m ready to let the kids ot…its a jungle out there after all 😐 .And oh!! Tell me, is it true that the starting rate for play-group admissions start at 30,000/- ?? Per child??
I’m rather flummoxed by the prospectus spread across my bed. Me and the BF have been trying to figure out what exactly is the pricing all about. We don’t mind shelling out the dough, but it just doesn’t seem justified. It’s a play-group , for Gosh’s sake!! Not a PhD thesis training (which surprisingly, costs far less) .
Anyhow, there are a few things plaguing my mind before I send the twins to school.
1) They refuse to part with their bottles.
2) Toilet training.
Now both the issues are immensely worrying. The twins refuse to drink milk out of cups/glasses. They would rather go without it than to drink from a cup. Moreover, now that I’ve brought down their nightly feeds, they crave a bottle as soon as they get up. If I don’t give them their milk, they’ll howl and be miserable throughout the day!! We’ve tried hiding the bottles, making up stories of the fairy coming and taking it away and all such tricks. Nothing works. We only have to deal with mammoth tantrums multiplied by two!!
I know its high time since they quit the bottle. Most kids learn to live without it. But my kids were surviving on bottle feed since the time they were born (don’t ask why!! There’s a long painful back-story that I don’t want to get into now). Suffice to say, they don’t know any other way or are reluctant to let go of the bottle. Suggestions to help them quit would be most appreciated .
What am I saying?!
I’ll fall at your feet and thank you if your tip works 😀 . So help me please !!
About the toilet training……phew!! Everyone at home is trying their best. But I guess the weather is just not conducive to our plans 😦 . The twins balk at the idea of stepping into a cold bathroom. They’d rather pee in their pants than get out of it and walk to the loo 😦
Can’t blame them…..but seeing that admission time is around the corner, its high time they learnt to use the loo. Hell, I’ll be immensely grateful to the almighty is they at least inform us before taking a leak!! Right now, they first do their job and then come up and say that they’ve done it!!
Where did we go wrong 😐 !!
III] Woes
I drive a two-wheeler to office everyday. Seeing that I use the highway, the in-laws (AND parents 😀 ) insisted that I use a helmet. It was a reasonable demand and I bought one. Problem is, since the time I’ve started using it, I’ve seen a drastic increase in hair-fall. Given that I already have very scanty tresses, this is a distressing sign indeed 😦
I’m not really sure if the hair-fall is the helmet’s fault or because of the recent mind-numbing work in office.But I’m losing hair fast and I need a cure asap.
Any ideas, people??
Another thing that’s driving me crazy these days – cracked heels.
Go on, laugh at me. But it isn’t funny when I drag my feet across the bed-sheet and half the threads are caught between the cracks! There’s also this funny ‘charrrrrrr’ sound that totally grates on the nerves!!
And you know the worst part??
Due to some cosmic interference, only women are subjected to the pains of winter heels. The men are blissfully unscathed!! Hell, the BF’s heels look as round and smooth as a baby’s bottom! So unfair, I tell you!!! Wonder why we women are cursed with all these woes!! I agree winter’s here, but why is it only me who needs to apply the moisturizers, lip-balms and foot creams?? The BF is sinfully untouched by winter, almost as if he has an invisible shield around him!!
Hmmpff!!
I guess I’m done for now.
Feels a little good to vent it all out at one go 🙂
And if you’re reading this , I thank you for spending time with me, lending me a patience hearing (err….reading 😀 ) .
I’ll be away for a long weekend….not sure if I’ll be able to post until next Tuesday. But I think I might make some time for an Anniversary post!
Yep. Me and the BF complete 4 years of marital bliss and 12 years of being the best of friends tomorrow !!
(This is where the Wishes part comes in 😀 . C’mon, send them across !!)
What else could I possibly ask for 😉 ?!!
(Except maybe a few tips on the kid’s bottle-weaning and toilet training)
(And also, maybe pointers to good references for a new job).
Till then, Ciao 🙂
Sorry about the W’s and Congratulationnnnsss!! *Dan-ta-nan!! Drumrolls… accompanying the wishes!*
Awww *blush*
Thanks a ton G 🙂
Hello Noor,
I have been lurking in your corner for a while now and thought today is as good a day as any to say Hi.
Came thru other blogs here and realized you have twins as well. You write pretty well and all your posts are as if you are talking in person, so it is easy to connect.
For the bottle to cup part, you can try a sipper. I transitioned my kids from bottle to sipper (and am now stuck at the sipper stage :)). They are perfectly capable of drinking from a glass and do so, but they need their morning milk in a sipper 🙂 which is still not too bad.
Happy Holidays 🙂
Whoa, another mommy to twins!!
Where were you all this while, Soul-sister?? 😀
Your tip seems really good and after work today, I’m hopping over to buy some sippers!!
Thanks for dropping by 🙂
(and hoping that you continue to do so 😀 )
Love,
N.
Here I come to help you with my tips.Good luck.
First for bottle weaning-as parents we need to be tough first. for one week, give them short talks about need to transition to new bottles because the old ones are getting worn out(emphasis here is about new and old and not drinking from nipple based bottles).
next week, take them out to buy sippers. Let them choose their fav cartoon based sippers.choose one for morning milk and one for eve milk. Get them excited about drinking from this new ones.
Hide the bottles and do not get tempted to give them back if they throw a tantrum.If you feel that you might be tempted to give them back, throw them out!!!Make them eat biscuts/cakes instead of milk if they refuse.Idea here is to not react when they throw a tantrum.Be understanding yet firm.distract them with cartooons, new toys, what ever it takes. when they see that you are being firm, they will also change. It might be hard but its easier said than done. so good luck.
I weaned my son using diff coloured straws with tumblers. he got to pick straw of his colour and he felt very grown up about it:)
For toilet training-i am looking out for ideas myself. So bear hug:)
Thanks a LOT Lavs. You have no idea how much your ideas have helped 🙂
And I’m sorry for replying so late…….awfully hectic weekend to blame 😦
I was going to say what AAmom just said about trying sippers. My kids switched to sippers after 15 months and were on it till they were 2.5 and then I switched to cups with straw and then to regular cups. Worked fine.
Also for potty training, I trained both my kids within 10 days (between christmas and new year). I did not put any undies/diapers for those days during the day and took them to potty every hour whether they wanted to go or not. I used to sit with them in the bathroom on a stepstool and would make them focus to do their business there. Also I made a funny jig and loud celebration everytime they did it in the toilet. That was amusing for them that they started expecting that jig after every attempt. It was very demanding on me to keep an eye on them all the time so that there are no accidents, but they fared better in just a couple of days. Also I remember took them to the toilet before their nap and immediately after their nap too. I constantly kept asking them to tell me when they have to pee/poop. That way they told me when they needed to go. It was hard the first two days but from the third day they knew the routine and from then on it was not so bad. Another thing I did was not to put diapers when going out, that would confuse them. I took them to public toilets when I went out. Ofcourse here in US the toilets are clean, but you may have difficulty with that in India. I did keep them in diapers during the night.
Thats one long comment.
Happy Anniversary! Delurking to let u know that I enjoy reading ur blog 🙂 No tips on the parenting part as not been blessed yet but can help with the cracked heels part. I used to suffer terribly till I got a pumice stone and scrubbed the heels everyday while having a bath. Takes a few seconds but believe me,it made a difference. Then you can apply any lotion to your feet. I have dry skin so Eucerin,Nivea or Aveena works for me. Try it out.
Hi HC ,
Awfully glad about your delurking, because your suggestion is really helpful 🙂
Gotta buy a pumice stone asap 😀
Thanks 🙂
Happy Anniversary to you Noorulayn! Lotsa wishes and many more to come.
You have got some really good tips for weaning your twins off the bottle and potty training as well. I have nothing to offer…. since I started off my training with a glass (even if they sloshed milk all over the place) way ahead. By two they were drinking from their glass without any fuss whatsoever; especially the younger one who was a milk-crazy child! 😛 I had tougher times with the elder one.
But I can say one thing, when you say “you have tried” (hiding bottles etc) that will fail coz I assume, after ‘trying’ you gave them milk in bottle again?? Once you do that, they know, they just have to wait long enough to get the bottle back 😀 They are much more smarter than us and more energetic… easy for them to wear us out.
Thanks a lot Shail 🙂
I’ve hidden the bottles for good now. And am seriously hoping the twins adjust. The last two days were tough, with Shobs refusing to drink milk altogether.
I haven’t given in yet 😀
I guess a couple of days more and he might get used to the sippy cup!!
*Praying hard*
Happy Belated Anniv babes!! sorry to get in so late…
Hope you had a gala time .. and wish you millions more 🙂
All the best with the babies and the schools!! 🙂
Thanks a lot dear.
And apologies for missing your B’day too 😦
Did you have fun?
First things first…. congratulations.
Two… all the best with the job hunt.
Three, cracked heels.. apply vaseline wear socks.. NEVER go barefoot.
Four, hair fall… homeopathy worked wonders for me.
Five, bottlefeed… straws did the trick for my fussy one.
Six, potty training… will take it’s own time. Don’t worry about playschool. In any case they’ll carry spares. Mine came in fresh underwear everyday for two weeks then it went down drastically. The school is used to it too. So chill. If you can stick it out and make a concerted effort great.. or else wait it out.. I did.
Guess that covers it all….
Thanks for taking time to give me such handy tips OM 🙂
And you do reassure me loads 🙂
I feel better already 🙂